Just Dont Ever......Scream in my Face

just me
Jan 9, 2017
2 min read

Please scream in my face, said no one ever. That is just rude and disrespectful. And its just "adult bullying" and just as much unacceptable as when it happens to our children at school.

Sadly there are marriages that endure that kind of behavior for many moons. What makes a partner stay in a volatile relationship that cannot be good for either of them? It could be children, or fear of ostracization from family and friends. Whatever the reason its just not acceptable under any circumstances.

Especially when your friends think that your partner is a super cool and loving person. When things go wrong, and they always will, that is when things get ugly. And ugly can be an understatement at times. Running away might not always be the answer either.

Now don't get me wrong, I have an awesome husband who loves me unconditionally. We disagree, and at times don't talk for some time. He very rarely will apologize, cos I am the crazy irrational one. Fortunately for him, I love him just as much and generally put it in a box and throw it in the ocean.

But what of those that are maybe just starting out, or been together for so long that either of them feel that they don't have to adjust to the other. Relationships are all about adjusting to each other.

So what if you have to apologize to keep the peace, is your partner not worth it in the long run. What would life without them be like... have you sad and thought about it. There are a number of questions that I always ponder:

1. Can they change?

2. If they cannot change, can I accept and live with it?

3. If I cannot live with it, what are my options?

4. Is it something that I can just move around and focus on other qualities?

4. Can I live without him?

The answer to #4 is always "NO". So although I will speak up when I don't like something, I am selective about what I will fight for.